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Posted by on Dec 12, 2013 in Baby Atlas | 18 comments

2 Months Postpartum

We did it! We survived another month!

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Man, I enjoyed month 2 so much more than month 1! Message to new moms: It gets easier and sweeter!

IMG_3459Atlas grew like a weed again this past month. We had his 2 month check-up yesterday and he is currently weighing in at 15.3 pounds. No doubt about it – he is my little chunk. He got a lot taller this month too – he’s now in the 95th percentile for length (still no clue what that means).

He is becoming so alert and so much more fun to interact with! He smiles at Dave and me all the time and it is truly one of the best things I’ve  ever experienced. He has laughed out loud once and I’m dying to hear that beautiful sound again. I can tell he’s on the verge of all-out laughing at things we do, but while it is easy to make him smile it is difficult to make him really laugh.

My family has given him the nickname “LD” for Little Dave because he looks exactly like Dave. That’s fine by me because I think my husband is pretty darn cute. I just hope Atlas gets my humor, wit, brains and humility. Still too early to tell on all that though. Although, he does enjoy watching himself in the mirror so I think we can already tell where he’ll fall on the humility spectrum.

He’s been a great sleeper this month. On average, he sleeps anywhere from 5.5-7 hours straight each night, wakes up to eat and then immediately goes back to sleep for another 2-4 hours. I’ll take it! Words can’t express just how thankful I am for his nighttime sleep routine. The Lord answered that prayer above and beyond what I imagined for this stage of life.

And if you’re a new mom and you’re reading this through sleep deprived eyes and cursing me because of my awesome sleeper, let me provide you with full disclosure. Atlas does have a ‘touch of colic’ according to the pediatrician and he pretty much screams at us for 3 hours in the evenings. It is maddening and there have been many nights when I’ve cried because the sound of his crying is heartbreaking (and sometimes just plain annoying if we’re being totally honest). The portion of our night prior to bedtime is rough. So, I do have a happy baby and a wonderful sleeper but I by no means have ‘the perfect baby.’

Also, I’ve come to the conclusion that the people who say they have ‘the perfect baby’ are liars. Dirty liars. At least, that’s what I tell myself when Atlas has been crying for 45 minutes straight in the evenings.

We’re thinking Atlas is going to be an extrovert because he loves watching people. He still demands to be held most of the time, but there are some portions of the day when he’s content to chill by himself. It usually helps if he has a good book to read…

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I loved watching him grow this month and I’m even more excited for the month to come.  Each week new challenges arise while other things get significantly easier. I would be lying if I said it doesn’t make me a little sad when I think about how much he has grown in a month though. It makes me realize how fast this time is going to go by.

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The boy truly lights up our life.

I feel more like my old self this month. I attribute a lot of this to the fact that I’m running and exercising again. However, my runs aren’t as long and my workouts aren’t at the intensity they used to be. But I’m working my way back up the fitness ladder…slowly but surely. I’ve lost some speed when it comes to running, but I’m happy that I’ve been able to go out for 3 and 4 mile runs and feel decent (not great, but decent).

Breastfeeding has become so much easier and I’m more thankful each day that I stuck with it. It is becoming a bonding time for Atlas and me and as weird as it sounds, I love those early morning feedings because that is when Atlas is extra snuggly.

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I still find myself dealing with the frustrations that come with having to ask for help. I just like doing things on my own, so having to ask Dave for help is difficult for me. I like cooking, washing my own dishes, doing our laundry, etc. and the reality is when you have a newborn you have to accept help from others if you expect everything to get done. Since I’m Atlas’ food source, most of the time I have to feed him while Dave picks up slack around the house. I have had a few meltdowns in the last month because I just didn’t want Dave to do the laundry or make dinner or walk the dogs…I wanted to do the laundry, make dinner and walk the dogs. Luckily, I have a terrific husband who not only helps without being asked, but he loves on me (and laughs at me) when I’m crying because I don’t want help but desperately need it. I’m a stubborn little treat, aren’t I?

I also still feel scattered most days, which is difficult when I want to do something like review our finances or go over insurance claims. It is tough to accomplish things like that when you have a newborn, so again I must ask for help…truly maddening for a control freak.

Perhaps the most difficult part of this season of life is just being so far away from family. I was fortunate this month to have 2 back-to-back weeks with my family and it made me realize just how much easier parenting would be if my mom and sisters were close by. I love that Dave and I feel more like a family in NYC because it is just us, but I do long for the help (can I get an ‘amen’ for free babysitting), support and expertise of my family.

I am so thankful for the encouragement I’ve received from afar though. My sister sends me cards. My mom sends me uplifting texts. My girlfriends send me sweet e-mails. In fact, Katie made my day when she sent me the most adorable burp rags. She actually made them and they are some of my favorites.

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When other moms reach out to me and reiterate that this stage of life is difficult but oh-so-sweet it helps me more than they will probably ever know…or maybe they do know because they are moms. 😉

From what I can tell, this whole motherhood thing is going to be a roller coaster. It may be a bit of a bumpy ride, but I’m thinking it might just be the most fun one of my life.

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So, that’s that. If you’re a new mom and you have questions about this stage of my life, feel free to ask! If you’re not a mom, you probably just read way more than you ever wanted to know about me and my baby. Sorry ’bout that.

Now, I’m off to feed my little ham before we head down to Rockefeller to see the Christmas tree all lit up! Pictures to come!

 

 

 

 

18 Comments

  1. Hey Ashley,

    Just wanted to say how much I enjoy your blog. I can totally relate but my baby is already 18 months. I am wondering now if I can possibly do it again, I think I want another one!!just can’t imagine doing it all again,
    I run also and have found that to be so helpful. Recently my daughter was hospitalized for phenomena ( worst experience ever!) the day we returned from the hospital I had a moment like you mentioned in one of blogs. I just ran and ran and boy did it feel good. Once I returned home I was a whole new Mom and Wife.
    So keep writing!! I follow your blog through your husband who I grew up and went to school with. Great guy!!

    • Thank you so much for commenting, Amanda! This made me smile!

      And I’m so sorry to hear about your baby girl – so glad she is home from the hospital! I bet you could have ran forever after the stress of that ordeal!

      We want Atlas to have a sibling and we want them to be pretty close in age, but I’m like you – I really can’t imagine doing it all over again…WITH a toddler around. I’m pretty sure I’ll have to have family close by for baby #2 because I’m going to need lots of help. ha

  2. I love keeping updated on your journey as a new mom! I use to call those hours in the early evening the “bewitching” hour. All mind were pretty fussy early evening but thankfully, they were all good sleepers too!(: I also loved, loved, loved nursing mine! Definitely a sweet bonding time. And it’s so funny because I can totally relate on the whole “asking for help” thing. It was hard for me with my first too! I like to think myself a pretty strong woman so I had to learn to ask for help. I’m glad you’re learning early.(: I’m really good at letting my husband know I need help now, lol!(; And when you need a break from everything…definitely ask your husband to give you a couple of free hours to yourself as well. It’s good for everyone…I had to learn that the hard way.<3 In the meantime, you're doing such a great job!!

    • Thank you so much, JoJo! Cracking up at the ‘bewitching’ hour because it is so true.

      I’m learning to ‘let go’ and just ask for help, but good Lord that is tough! It is so funny though because motherhood has made me realize just how much I am like my mom! My mom doesn’t like when anybody helps around her house because she thinks she can do the job better (And 99.9% of the time she is correct). I’m realizing I’m the exact same way. I’m sure they make meds for crazy people like us! 🙂 But you’re right – I’m learning our house is a happier place when I just accept help, do what I can and focus on my job as a mom to Atlas right now verses trying to do it ALL.

  3. I LOVE all the pictures! Your are wise beyond your years and I’m so proud of you. Can’t wait until we all get together again. I’m only a phone call away. I will fly there any week end you need a break. I love you all!

    • Thank you, mom! I love you. 🙂 You’re the best.

  4. He really does look like his daddy!! Too cute.

    I hope the nighttime fussies go away soon. I don’t know if it makes you feel better – but all three of mine went through it. It’s due to a dip in hormones (yours and his). Livie was the worst – Evan was the easiest. I think it helped that I had Dan give him a bottle around 7ish (I would pump). It was good bonding for them and it minimized the screaming. It peaks around 8 weeks. Or did for mine.

    I can also relate to feeling like you need to do it all. I am right there with you! I have finally learned (it only took 3 kids, lol) that it’s just plain easier to let people help. They WANT to. Especially husbands!

    Congrats on making it 2 months 🙂 It’s no small feat!
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    • That is so interesting about the hormones, Michelle! I’ve never heard that. I’ll try the evening bottle and see if that helps. We’re so desperate to make our evenings more peaceful, we will try just about anything. Right now, he loves the sound of the water running so we spend a solid hour in the bathroom each night running the sink while he watches the water. Crazy. Just crazy. ha

  5. Great post… Reading it got me back in the mood again for our #2 in just a few short months. So true about “Difficult but oh so sweet”, that is the best way I’ve heard it put.

    • Oh, congratulations on baby #2! How exciting! I can’t wait for Atlas to have a sibling…not sure how on earth I’ll juggle 2…but I’m excited for that day whenever it comes!

  6. I love you both! I could just kiss my computer screen with those pictures of him! I can’t wait until your next visit! You’re doing a fantastic job and Atlas is blessed to have you as his mommy! (He’s pretty lucky to have me as his aunt, too, cause I just flat love him to pieces!)

    • He is totally lucky to have you as an aunt! He woke up fussy and all out of sorts today – still not too sure why – but we pulled out the monkey toy you got him and that kept him happy for a while. He must have been thinking of how much fun he had in ATL when he was looking at the monkey his Aunty Tammy got him. 😉

  7. Colic sucks! Hearing those cries when you know you can’t do too much to help qualm them is so hard. I remember those days well and don’t wish them on my worst enemy. Luckily, just like you said, things do get better and they do grow out of it.
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    • You’re absolutely right – I wouldn’t wish colic on anybody! It makes for some looong evenings.

  8. oh my goodness! he is such a chunk and OH sooooo cute!! WAY to go mama 😉

    And amen to that perfect baby comment—pretty sure everyone has their issues, babies included 😉 baby girl would not stop projectile vomiting everywhere….that was a fun phase. not. Now she is better, but now we’re fighting bed time–she too can be so dang fussy in the evenings!! GAH!

    Most nights she sleeps well too, but the occasional bad night drives me bonkers.

    But all in all, you’re right, this is such a special time, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Plus, now we can tottttalllllyyy relate with all moms out there 🙂
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    • Oh girl…The other night Atlas refused to go to sleep until 1am. I was losing MY mind! But when he finally went down he slept for a long time, thankfully.

      And you’re so right – I feel like I have an instant bond with other moms (like you 😉 ) now because we are all going through very similar things!

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