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Posted by on Jan 12, 2014 in Baby Atlas | 15 comments

3 Months Postpartum

We are officially done with the ‘4th trimester!’ And can I just say, the 4th trimester was harder than any half marathon I’ve ever ran. It also brought with it a greater reward than crossing a finish line ever gave me.

3 monthsHowever, just like month 2 was better than month 1, month 3 was even better than month 2. Again – if you’re a new mom and you’re reading this – IT GET’S EASIER!

Atlas is now weighing in at 16.5 pounds and he grew 1 whole inch over the last month. He’s such a chunk and I wouldn’t want it any other way. Those baby rolls melt my heart.

I feel like Atlas has developed more this month than in the last 2 combined. He is now reaching for things, holding his head up better, laughing out loud (←my absolute favorite) and he pretty much always has his hands in his mouth.



Simply put: He’s just starting to seem more human.  You know…as compared to a super cute blob. He actually interacts with us. Smiles at us. Follows our voices. It has been amazing to watch him develop both physically and mentally. It truly feels like a gift to watch him grow.

Even though our days aren’t easy, they are getting easier and I’m more thankful each day that I have the opportunity to stay home with Atlas and watch him learn. He is still a great little sleeper and just in the last 3 weeks, our evenings have become a bit more tolerable (read: He doesn’t scream for 3 straight hours). Hallelujah!


I think I’m falling into a better stride with this whole motherhood thang too. I’m learning Atlas’ cries and getting better at soothing him and just reading him in general. I’m still no expert, but our good days typically outweigh the doozies now. I mean…we still have doozies…on New Years Eve I actually called Dave for the first time ever and asked him to come home from work early because I needed a break THAT bad. Luckily, I married a gem and he came to my rescue like the true hero he is and after a few hours to myself I felt much better. But just keeping it real…there are still days when Atlas cries and by the end of the day I’m crying too. Thankfully, those days just aren’t as frequent now and there is a lot more laughter thrown in the mix.

I am still running and working out when our schedule and the weather permits and releasing those endorphins makes a world of difference in my mood and confidence. At this stage, I’m pretty happy when I get 4 workouts in a week. This week I’m hoping to start going to the gym a few days and leaving Atlas in childcare. We’ll see though…I’m convinced the gym childcare rooms are a breeding ground for germs so I’m a bit apprehensive.

One thing that really helped me during this season was this sermon. It is titled “How to Love the Mud” and it convicted me and challenged me to approach my new role as a mom with a different attitude. I’m slightly OCD and I tend to obsess over everything being neat, tidy and in the perfect place. This has never been a huge issue because I had the time and energy to make sure everything was neat, tidy and in the perfect place. However, Atlas has basically flipped my OCD world upside down and now I barely have time to eat…much less keep the house immaculate. And when our house gets messy I am prone to meltdowns where I end up crying to Dave telling him that our entire life is messy because apparently in my world a messy house = a life out of control. Yes, I’m such a treat and he does know how lucky he is to have married me. How to Love the Mud encourages you to think about the meaning and miracles in your messes. For example; My house is messy because there are baby toys all over the place. The reason there are baby toys all over the place is because God has blessed me more than I ever thought possible with a healthy baby boy who is growing and playing. And I get to be home to entertain him with all those toys that we can afford because my husband works so hard. There is someone out there right now who would kill for the mess I’m in. Someone who wants a baby so much that the thought of a home that looks like a daycare sounds like heaven to them. So not only should I not complain and flip out over my messy house…I should actually stop during the day and thank the Lord for the gift that my mess represents. It is truly a miracle that I’m lucky to be a part of.

So, I’m working on letting the messes go and enjoying the miracle that is Atlas and it is helping me become a better mother and a better wife. Word.


But on that note, my little miracle is sleeping and these floors aren’t going to mop themselves so I better get to that! That’s just good hygiene, people! 😉

I do want to leave you with this video of Atlas laughing. I dare you to watch this and not smile. I double dog dare you.





  1. I just love your positive attitude, Ashley! You are so right, no matter how much our lives seem to be falling apart at the seams, someone else would give so much to have what we have. Atlas is sooooo cute too – I just want to squeeze his big cheeks <3
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    • Thank you, Becky! Come to NYC – you can squeeze his cheeks & then we can hit up 5th Ave! 😉

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  3. Ashley,

    I love reading your posts. It makes me feel like I’m an okay mom. I feel like sometimes as new moms we only want to tell people the good stuff. I have a weekly breakdown about something. I’m thankful for your posts as they are heartfelt, real, and honest.

    I look forward to them!


    • Thank you so much for the words of encouragement, Amy! And I couldn’t agree more – I feel like so many people just want to share their highlight reel and while I think being positive is wonderful, sometimes I think it is a bit detrimental when we aren’t open and genuine about the struggles we face because it makes others feel isolated…like they are the only one struggling.

      Thanks again for reading! 🙂

  4. I am so proud of you and your growth. You are a wonderful mother. What beautiful pictures of Atlas. I’m laughing out loud watching Atlas laugh. Love it!! ❤️

    • Thanks, mom! I’m glad you liked the video. Only my child would laugh at ‘is the cannon still hot?’ haha

  5. Awww I love this post and his chubby cheeks!! And I totally agree that it gets easier. . . and keeps getting easier! But yet still challenging – in a good way! 🙂 HUGS!!
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    • You’re absolutely right – some things get easier, but some things do get more challenging (i.e. he’s more alert now, which means he really wants to be entertained when he is awake). But, I think as certain issues get easier your confidence as a new mom increases, which helps you deal with those new challenges that arise (almost weekly) a little better.

  6. Oh my gosh!!! His laugh!!!! PRICELESS.

    Baby girl has laughed a few times too (not quite a laugh, I guess, but she attempts to), and it just kills me. DAng these kiddos, do they even know how much we love them?!?! And how much they can frustrate us too!! 😉 haha

    • Annette, do you ever think about when they become teenagers how they will inevitably look at us one day and say, “Mom! Stop – you’re annoying me!” Poor Atlas will open up a can of worms when he uses that line on me one day because I will launch into telling him about the endless nights I spent bouncing him, rocking him, standing in the bathroom with the water running to soothe him at midnight and how annoying that was for ME! hahaha

      Having a baby makes me appreciate my mom so much more because I can only imagine how I must have frustrated her! But you’re right – their laugh make it all worthwhile!

  7. GAHHHH He is so cute and I am completely obsessed with the name. It just keeps growing on me! I think it is awesome that you are realizing all your ish is a mess because you have way cooler things to do than clean. My room goes in cycles of super clean to progressively looking like a bomb exploded and then it repeats itself. I have to remind myself that it is because I am in and out of the house all the time because I have a killer life!

    Also… when it comes to childcare… I am a non parents so take my thoughts with a grain of salt. I worked at a daycare with the 6 months and under babes and honestly the more germs they were exposed to the more rock solid their immune system was later!
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    • Our house is the same way, Megan. It goes through a cycle…a vicious cycle. lol

      And I’m going to attempt taking Atlas to the gym tomorrow so I can run on the treadmill! I’ll report back with how it goes! 🙂

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